The Anger Trap

Many people have shared with me in recent weeks how they feel totally taken over by anger and fear. This results in many actions, including projecting that towards others. When you find yourself playing  the blame game, it's time to step back and look in the mirror. Most of us were invalidated and teased when we were young and vulnerable. Children are born with a healthy sense of self, but that can quickly be destroyed by well intentioned but damaging parenting practices, and assorted caretakers. It does not serve us to blame our parents, caretakers, or siblings; but, rather, to simply move forward into forgiveness and the freedom that comes with that. 

Forgiveness is not the condoning of actions, it is taking back our power from the situation and not allowing it to affect us any longer. When you are angry with someone, you are giving them control over you, and actually allowing them to dictate your actions and emotions. They are most likely either unaware of your anger, or unaffected. This creates a situation where you are, as one of my favorite sayings goes, "allowing them to live rent free in your head." There are plenty of people for us to be angry with, who have wronged us, and others.  Most of those people are unaware of their crimes, and have their own justifications for their behavior. A person who cuts you off in traffic is likely unaware that your day is now ruined and you will be telling your friends about them later. So, the question is: Why are you allowing that to happen? Do we enjoy being angry? I believe that answer is subjective, but the simple solution is to "let it go." As you learn to let go of these connections to people who are in their own amount of pain, you are then able to really look at your own pain, and begin to release that. Because that is the bottom line, isn't it? 

“ Happy people don’t need to cause pain for others.”

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