A Soul Journey

A soul's journey is never complete. When people ask me, "When will I be done with all this?" I always answer, "Never, so just settle in for the ride." Evolution is, inherently, a process that does not end. Death is the end of evolution, simply put. If you believe, as I do, in reincarnation, then you can even speculate that your evolution is eternal. What you do not learn in this lifetime, is passed along with your energy as you choose your next vessel, and that is what many refer to as "karma." 

Relationships with other living beings are always about passing energy from one to the other. When you have a friend who is struggling, your connection and natural desire to "help" them creates an energy exchange, in which you take some of their pain for them. If you do this for many people, you will find another living being to take come of YOUR pain, and so on. I call this the "pain baton." What if, instead of passing it along, we just learned to transmute it and process it within ourselves? If everyone did this, we would eradicate all the co-dependence and relationships would be about love. Think about a relationship where you each have space to process your own pain, and you each recognize this in each other. You do not blame each other for your pain, instead, you are able to assist each other in looking at your root cause, and eliminate those wounds altogether.

I have been reading "Spiritual Partnerships," by Gary Zukov, and this has challenged my relationship paradigm in a very good way. He has a great way of explaining things and really eases the reader into understanding and accepting new ideas. Many concepts and beliefs that we have built our relationships upon, are changing with the times. The old belief of meeting "your other half" is now replaced with "two whole loving beings who meet and share their lives with each other." This new space allows each person to have separate hobbies and passions, and it can look to others, stuck in the old paradigm, that you are not even in a "relationship." They may question your time apart and try to label it as "weird" or "unhealthy." 

The other part of the evolved relationship is truth. When you choose truth over fear, you are creating a highly evolved place of trust and freedom. Things like jealousy, or anger, are eradicated, because you are always open and there is no subterfuge. "Are you attracted to that other woman?" and the reply comes, "Yes, she has pretty eyes and seems kind,"  is met with understanding, as you can be attracted to someone else, but that does not threaten your relationship, since you are secure in your love and your self esteem is high. You may encourage your partner to go talk to her, or you may go over together, as you can acknowledge the beauty in others and not feel immediately threatened. Those negative fears are a thing of the past when you have your own happiness and self love. My partner and I speak freely of these things because he knows that I am secure in myself, and our love transcends jealousy, because I want him to pursue his happiness and truth over ALL other things. I support his evolution and he supports mine. If we are meant to be together, we will be. If we are not meant for each other, that will be shown to us. There is no fear, because we both want the best for all humans, and we understand that evolution is a process. 

As you form relationships, whether it be friendships, intimate partnerships, or even family dynamics, keep in mind that YOU are the beginning and end of your happiness. It is ALWAYS about you. No one else is to blame for your anxiety, anger, fear, etc. You have stored memories which trigger emotions, and others can bring this out in you. At that point you have a choice, whether to blame others, and pass the pain baton, or to allow the feelings to wash over you and take the opportunity to heal yourself. 

For more information, shoot me an email, or make an appointment. I can show you tools and assist you in your soul's journey. Many blessings and love today!