We are told at an early age that to be "lazy" is to be "bad." The trouble with this adage is that the definition of "lazy," seems to be a bit hazy (accidental rhyme). I touched on this in an earlier post, and it has come to my attention again, due to recent events. The opposite of lazy is, arguably, to be productive. What is behind the mindset of someone who does not want to be, or is not able to be, productive? It is our old friend, Fear. Fear of success, failure, and many other things. Perhaps you have tried to be productive in the past, only to have your achievements invalidated and dismissed as "not good enough." Whatever the reason, if you are in a place of healing, I believe you are producing exactly what you need at the exact time you need to do it.
Getting out of a rut is hard. You have to first recognize that you are IN the rut, then you have to find the way out. Many times, we are stuck because we have turned off our "opportunity radar." These missed opportunities come in many forms, big and small. I have recently been working with a company that is going to revolutionize the economy, healthcare, and business practices as a whole. Since we are a start up company, we have to bring in referrals of qualified people we know. I am calling all the people I know who struggle financially, and the ones who need the most help are the ones who are the most hesitant! It is a classic lottery situation. The "lottery curse," as we call it, culminates with the big money winners being in the same, or worse, financial situation than they were in when they won the money. This is a classic example of being in a rut and following established patterns of lack and devaluing oneself. One of my favorite ways to illuminate these patterns for people is to ask one question: "And how is that working for you?" No one has ever said "It's working great!", and that will usually result in a conversation where they can see that they need to take a chance and put themselves out there in a different way. Another great example of this is the movie "Yes Man," where the main character attends a motivational seminar and has to take a vow to start saying Yes to all the opportunities around him. His life undergoes a HUGE change and in the end he lands in a very different place, and is fulfilled and happy. He spent all his time saying No, and ended up alone on his couch. Comfortable, but alone and unhappy. How's that working for you?????
In order to be "productive," we must first heal the part of us that is scared to take chances and say Yes to these opportunities that are everywhere. Start recognizing the choices you have, instead of playing the victim and feeling sorry for yourself. This is just your Ego having a temper tantrum, as a good friend told me once. If you spent a day with me, you would see me taking a lot of time to collect my thoughts and meditate. When I feel overwhelmed, I find space to breathe and recenter myself. This allows me to be MORE productive, but to the casual observer, it may look as though I am being "lazy." A good friend bragged to me, "I never sit down!" and I wondered if she realizes that she is falling into that old belief system. If you never sit down, you are living in distraction and chaos. If that WORKS for you, great. But honestly, I can't imagine that it would be working for anyone. Taking the time for yourself is NOT being lazy. Running around like a crazy person 24/7 is NOT being productive. Find your balance and find your peace.
Wishing you all peace and blessings on this beautiful day!